What Women Want.

Yesterday was women’s day. My phone was bombarded with women’s day messages. I am home-based now but I remember being showered with gifts and chocolates on women’s day when I used to physically visit office. All that feels nice, isn’t it? Everyone loves to be treated with warmth and we women are no exceptions. But is this all what we need in general or on women’s day? I think more than the material items, we need and deserve the gift of freedom, the gift of choice, the gift of being.

 

Starting from very beginning, our birth is not celebrated as much as a boy’s. We are still considered as a liability than an asset. No matter how good we are at studying or sports, we must know how to handle house hold chores; there is nothing wrong in learning and doing household chores, what’s wrong is the bias around it that only women need to do all that. We must learn the art of respecting and pleasing people and the list is never ending. When we grow up and start working, we usually encounter men colleagues who leave no stone unturned in mansplaining stuff but what’s more disturbing is encountering women colleagues who pull us down. After having a child, we are expected to work as if we don’t have a child and raise the child as if we don’t have work. Well, you must have got my point. Being a woman is slightly trickier. Biologically, we have been blessed with the power of creating life which I think is the most extraordinary and brave thing but in spite of considering us tough, the society considers us fragile. I don’t think that the god would assign the most precious job of this world to the fragile gender, I think he must have chosen women to create life because he knew how capable and strong a woman could be. Enough of my ranting, let me tell you what I think, women need from society:

·         We want to be treated equally. Not like a goddess. Not like a slave. Equally. Like a normal human being-with empathy and love.

·         Stop telling us the poor cliché women based jokes. Stop generalizing us. Not all women drivers are bad. Not all women manager are witches.

·         Stop judging us on the basis of our clothes. Let us wear what we like. We dress-up for ourselves and not for the society.

·         Stop telling us do-es and don’ts just because we are women. No-one deserves a society to be SAVED from.

·         The sole purpose of our lives is not to give birth to children. We might or might not want kids. It is a matter of choice.

·         Stop pressurizing us. The whole idea of putting women up and above for no reason is unnecessarily pressure-causing. We can be wrong. We are human beings and not god.

·         In a nutshell, give us the freedom to choose, the freedom to build our lives on our own terms. Is that too much to ask for?

In spite of how women have been treated, they have always been on the giving and nurturing side. Imagine what treating them right can do. Remember that the change begins at home and your children will imitate your behavior. We women also need to stop pulling each other down and start putting each other up-at homes, in offices.

 

We are actually being more aware and moving towards change. I have been raised by parents who treated each other equally. I was allowed to make choices and mistakes. I was motivated to pursue my likings. Now, I have a husband who loves and supports me. I have a son and I have already started making sure that he loves and respects people for who they are and not because they are of certain age, gender, economical/societal standard.

 

Also, we know, being a man can be tough too. Men have their own life challenges and there is no denial around that but let’s leave that for men’s day; shall we?