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The "No-No-No" Phase

It was the day before janamasthami; the birthday of lord Krishna, and inspite of the rains we went out to get the Krishna-attire for Yuvi. It has been a ritual since Y was born; to dress him up as lord Krishna on janamasthami every year. The first two times were easy. We dressed him up and clicked beautiful photos. This was his third janamasthami. After juggling through clothes from shop to shop, we brought home a beautiful orange dress. Y liked it too and kept calling it 'sundar'.

Next day, in the evening, out of zest I got all dressed up and then started to dress up Y. Y said "no-no-no" and denied to wear the dress. We tried to lure him with different stuff but he stood up on his grounds. After a lot of hussle, we gave up. Y was so frustrated at our behaviour that he even refused to wear his night suit. We then took him to his almirah and let him choose a t-shirt to wear. Y has always loved footballs so he chose a t-shirt with a print of football on it. Anyway, the day got over. We clicked no pictures. There was a lot of crying in the beginning but in the end, Y did celebrate lord's birthday by singing songs and chanting prayers in his baby language; all while wearing his favorite t-shirt.

After that day, it became usual. Y fusses in wearing new clothes. The "no-no-no" is constant. He hates full sleeves t shirts and shirts, he hates t-shirts with lion/zebra/elephant printed on it. He only likes the clothes with footballs printed on it. Sometimes it gets very irritating, specially when we are all ready and need to leave the house to reach somewhere but Y won't wear certain clothes or shoes. But whenever I find myself struggling with parenting issues, I remind myself the best parenting advise I have ever got, "Everything is a phase. Sooner or later it will pass". I literally swear by this now. I let Y be. I know and understand that nothing is permanant in this growing age. Their behaviour, likes, and dislikes keep changing. They are growing up everyday and each tantrum is a pause to feel, express, and learn. Also, I have ordered multiple clothes with footballs printed on it because: why not, there is no other option, and we love our sanity.

Attached is a photo of Y being convinced by his grand mother to dress up as lord Krishna. Also, he is wearing his all time favorite t-shirt. 

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