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Unsolicited Advice by Mommy

I wrote this letter to Y when he was born. Never thought i would share it publically yet here i am. It's an unfiltered one, i wrote what i could with a 10-days-post-partum brain.

Hope you enjoy reading it.

Hey Buddy,

First of all, we love you very much and you have brought immense happiness in our lives.

We wish that you grow up to be a humble and loving boy. We do not want you to be a topper; being average would be okay but we surely want you to have fun, persue your hobbies, and be social. Remember that it is okay to make mistakes but learn from them and don't be so stupid to make the same mistake over and over again. Respect the ones who respect you. Ignore the ones who don't, it's their problem not yours. Love what you do or do what you love. Travel. Try new cuisines. Help people in need. It's okay even if they don't help you back, everyone does not have the same heart as yours. Don't just make girlfriends, fall in love. It's okay even if you fail, it just takes 21 days to get over a break up and a broken heart would teach you the best lessons in life (we all have been there). Love with all your heart. Love everyone, don't segregate people on the basis of their caste or gender. Respect women. Remember it's a woman who brought you into this world. When it's about you, always keep your opinion firm, don't compromise if you don't want to. Be Humorous. Make a lot of friends or may be less friends but best friends. Do not get so mad behind money, you can always earn money; you can't always make memories. Work hard or may be smart (whatever suits you). Failures are welcome in our family as long as they are lifting you up. Never give up. Always think positive even when it seems impossible. You can't always be happy so it's okay to have low days but talk to us about it, we might have an easier solution. You are not alone, we are there for you and will always be. It's okay with us if you go far away to explore new things in life. We would love to see you grow. Don't ever hold yourself back because of us, we will be okay. 

Love yourself. You are amazing. You are special. You are the world to us.

Love
Mom-Dad

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Vivek4Life said…
Awesome 👍👍
2 December 2020 at 21:06
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