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The Millennial Dad

Sumit by nature is a chirpy and positive being, he is usually easy going and practical. He is one of those people who do what they like and don't give a damn about the world. He has always loved his personal space, sports, and small friend circle. 

Two years into wedding bliss, we got to know that we were expecting an addition to our family. I was nervous, excited, anxious, and curious but Sumit was cool and all game. As they say, "Being a father doesn't start when the child is born, it starts when the mother is pregnant", I was very well taken care of while i was pregnant. We lived in a nuclear set up so the entire responsibility was on Sumit's head but i never found him stressing out or losing his cool; not even while handling the worst of my mood swings. I expected to see him trembling and crying when i was in labor but no luck even there. He was the coolest one around. All positive and ready to welcome the newborn. 

The first time he got stressed was when the nurse told him that Y had some breathing troubles and might be kept in nursery for some time. It's a common issue with newborns born via csec but Sumit did not know that. He started wandering here and there, asking questions to doctors. Only when he was assured by my gynae, he got his cool back. That's how his fatherhood-journey began. 

Frankly, i always thought that Y will be more attached to me but thanks to lockdown and Sumit's round the clock availability, the first word that came out of Y's mouth was "Papa". Since the time Y got senses, Sumit is his best buddy, Y insists to play peek a boo with no other than him, Y loves when Sumit rocks him to sleep. When Sumit is working or in a meeting, Y keep banging his door, asking him to come out and play. Y loves to sing and dance with him. Sumit makes silly moves and Y burst out into laughters. For Sumit, his world revolves around Y, just like mine. Sumit still crave for his personal space but 10 minutes into his "me-time" and he comes running back to Y. Y loves his papa as much as he loves his mama, may be even more. That's something which fills my heart with so much joy and gratitude. 

Gone are the days when the only responsibilty of a father was to earn money; the millennial dads are earning money plus doing everything which "supposedly" only the mothers should do. These new generation dads are supporting their families not only financially but emotionally. They are rocking their role as a father/husband and are being an amazing role-model for their kids. Y and I are so blessed to have such a man in our lives, we are so grateful to be sharing life, love, and family with a person like Sumit. 

This one is for you, Sumit. 

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